How to ensure your parent is taking their medication properly

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Not taking medications properly can be a critical problem, especially for seniors. Besides the medications not doing the job they are supposed to, such as preventing Alzheimer’s or dementia from progressing, taking medication at the wrong time, without food or fluids, in the wrong dose, or not at all, can lead to dizziness, ulcers, stroke, and congestive heart failure.

Dan Clem-McKinley, Director of Friendship Manor In-Home Services, said the key to making sure your parent or loved one is taking their medication properly is keeping an open line of communication between your parent and their doctor.

“We all know as we get older we have the tendency of forgetting,” Clem-McKinley said. “If I would be dealing with my parent, the first thing I would do is ask, ‘What medications are you on? When are you taking them? What is the dosage?’ And if they are doing it correctly, then that’s OK.”

Clem-McKinley said the key is double-checking with both your parent’s medicine supply as well as the doctor who prescribed it to ensure the information your parent has told you about their medication is correct. The latter will require a release from your parent that you may discuss their medications with the doctor.

For example, it is not uncommon for seniors to continue taking pills even after the doctor has stopped prescribing them, or to still be taking a prescription that was filled in 2011, and still has six refills remaining on it because they didn’t take it as often as they should.

Clem-McKinley has even encountered situations where seniors have kept prescriptions for years, thinking the doctor may prescribe it again and they can save money by not discarding the old medicine.

Once you know what your parent or loved one is supposed to be taking and when, it is important to double check that the medications are being taken on time by doing occasional spot checks and making sure the right amount of medication is left and asking why if the number is off.

“The children need to be active in their parents’ lives if they can,” Clem-McKinley said. “That’s the first step, keeping the communications open, even if you live out of state.”

If you are concerned that your parent or loved one is not taking their medication properly, or you are unable to monitor them on a daily basis, Friendship Manor can help. Friendship Manor In-Home Services can provide daily medication reminders, where a trained staff member will go to the senior’s home, multiple times a day if needed, and ensure medication is taken properly.

At Friendship Manor the nursing staff ensures residents take their medication on time, according to the proper instructions and dosage.

Click here for more information about Friendship Manor In-Home Services.


15 years later, resident still loves living at Friendship Manor



Fifteen years ago, Pat Vogel added up all her expenses to keep her home verses moving into Friendship Manor. The costs were the same, but if she stayed in her home, she also had to keep her bushes trimmed, her lawn cut and snow shoveled.

“I figured I may as well come here,” said Vogel who is still glad she made the move all those years ago.

What she enjoys most is constant companionship without having to leave the Manor.

“If you love to play cards, there is always a group of people who want to play,” Vogel said. “Me personally, because I love to read, I love the library.”

Vogel also looks forward to the monthly cocktail parties complete with music from the 40s, monthly birthday parties and the Friendship Manor staff.

“The staff are all just like our daughters and sons,” Vogel said. “They’re all just wonderful. I think they all love their jobs.”

She has been able to keep up a sewing and alterations business she has owned for more than 40 years while living at Friendship Manor. She still keeps her loyal customers and has even gained a few new ones from among the Friendship Manor residents.

“It’s like always having grandma around to sew on a button,” Vogel said.

Vogel also loves the food, especially because she doesn’t have to purchase or prepare it herself.

“We have fresh fruit, I think it is marvelous,” Vogel said. “If you want to make yourself a salad for dinner, you don’t have to buy all those cucumbers and tomatoes. It’s all right there for you.”


Staff pastor, regular services adds to Friendship Manor experience


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Most days of the week you can find a spiritual service on the Friendship Manor activity calendar. From a non-denominational Vespers service on Sundays to weekday Bible studies, there are plenty of opportunities to stay involved in faith-based activities once you move to Friendship Manor.

But opportunities to gather with other people of faith are only one benefit of having Pastor Erv Smith, staff pastor at Friendship Manor.

“The availability of a man of the cloth is just invaluable to people that are hurting,” Smith said. “In my own personal ministry, I try to make it a point to be very visible and very alert.

“I can stop and pray with people right in the middle of the hallway on any given day of the week.”

Smith says his support can be especially helpful as seniors make the transition to Friendship Manor from their homes or from independent living to a higher level of care. Recently he worked with one resident whose health needs required her to be moved to the Silver Cross Health and Rehabilitation Pavilion.

Her family was preparing for a long-term stay and was holding an auction in her apartment to condense her belongings, a process the resident was very upset about because she was concerned some items would be sold that she wanted to hang onto.

Smith not only listened to her concerns, but took her by wheelchair from the nursing wing to her apartment and helped her sort through her belongings to separate the items she wanted to keep.

“Just the fact that you have a staff pastor that is trying to attend to those needs is a great benefit,” Smith said.

Smith leads weekly non-denominational services residents can attend. While a small group of residents consider Smith their pastor, many like Vespers Committee Chairperson Marynell Kirkwood, view the service as an option when they are unable to leave the Manor to attend their own service.

“It is very nice, particularly this winter, which was such an awful, cold winter,” Kirkwood said. “There were as many as 45 people every Sunday because it was difficult to go out.”

Click here to learn more about the Friendship Manor community and download a schedule of spiritual activities.



Friendship Manor offers services for the entire community


Friendship Manor may have been founded as an assisted living community for seniors. But in its 35 years servicing the Quad-Cities, Friendship Manor has branched out to provide essential services that can be taken advantage of by residents and non-residents alike.

Some of the opportunities Friendship Manor offers the greater Quad-Cities community include physical therapy, group homes for adults with mental or physical challenges and the chance for seniors to begin making connections long before they move into the Manor through Friendship Connection.

“It’s not just in or out in the terms of you have to live there or you don’t participate,” said Jamie Long, who served as President of the Friendship Manor Board of Directors for six years. “It is really becoming a center, not only for the people who live there, but others as well.”

Silver Cross Health and Rehabilitation Pavilion

The Silver Cross Health and Rehabilitation Pavilion provides physical therapy to persons recovering from an injury or surgery.

While this service is a positive for residents who can receive physical therapy without leaving the Manor, Silver Cross also treats members of the community on an in- and out-patient basis. In fact, more than 80 percent of the patients at Silver Cross return to their homes and the community at large.

Click here to learn more about Silver Cross Health and Rehabilitation Pavilion.

Group living in the CILAs

New to Friendship Manor are CILAs (Community Integrated Living Arrangements), a group living option for adults with physical or developmental disabilities. Residents do not have to be 65 to live in the six-unit home with one live-in staff member. In the next five years there may be more plans to expand the CILAs as there is a great need for this type of service in the community.

Friendship Connection

Friendship Manor’s transition program is an excellent way for seniors to make the move gradually from living at home to taking an apartment at Friendship Manor. The future residency program gives priority placement to members, and allows them to take advantage of all the programs and activities Friendship Manor has to offer.

Click here to learn more about Friendship Connection.

Center of the community

By offering diverse services from assisted and independent living for residents, to out-patient physical therapy and future residency programs, Friendship Manor has positioned itself as a leader in the senior living community both in the Quad-Cities and the region.

“They not only enrich the community by the direct services that they offer, but also they help others in the senior services community to become better,” Long said. “They help lead the way, they’re flexible and willing to experiment.”

The variety of services Friendship Manor offers also keeps the organization financially sound by diversifying its methods of income. That means while the news is filled with stand-alone nursing homes closing, Friendship Manor and all the opportunities it provides the community will keep on going.

“It’s called peace of mind,” Long said. “People want the organization, particularly as they get to know it, they want it to continue to be around for themselves, their cohorts and others in the future.”


Friendship Manor looks ahead to continued growth, expansion

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This month Friendship Manor celebrates its 35th anniversary, which is quite a feat for an assisted living community.

In today’s world where reductions in state and federal programs means it is harder for seniors to qualify for benefits and therefore there is less revenue available for assisted living communities, the success of institutions that offer care for seniors depends on offering diverse care options.

That’s something Friendship Manor has been working on for the past decade since the arrival of Ted Pappas Jr., President and CEO. When Pappas came to Friendship Manor nine years ago, the senior living community only had three service lines.

By the summer 2015, that number will have grown to eight including: independent apartment-style living, independent villa-style living, assisted living, group housing for adults with intellectual and emotional difficulties, in-home services, inpatient rehabilitation, outpatient rehabilitation, and an Alzheimer’s/Memory Care unit.

“We believe that diversity is strength,” Pappas said. “In the day and age in which we live, diverse revenue streams are critical to survivability to organizations.”

Plans to convert one-and-a-half floors to specialized care for persons with Alzheimer’s by 2015, is an example of diversification to fit a need for the community as well as keep Friendship Manor’s future financially sound. In the last two years twenty residents have moved to other senior living communities, making clear the need to begin offering a new level of care at Friendship Manor.

“I think there’s going to be a lot of consolidation and or closures of standalone facilities,” Pappas said. “I really believe the Manor is diversified enough to remain standing. I think we’re one of the last ones in the ring.”

Pappas said other possibilities on the horizon over the next five years include:

  • More group homes, or CILAs (Community Integrated Living Arrangements), for adults with emotional or intellectual challenges
  • Expansion of the in-home care division, possibly into Medicare home care
  • Looking into new affiliations through a planned acquisition or merger with another senior living community
  • Converting a rental home into a child day care for employees

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Friendship Manor traces its roots back to humble beginnings with The King’s Daughters and Sons

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Friendship Manor’s roots are traced back to 1941, when Mr. and Mrs. Harry H. Cleaveland donated a three-story home to the Illinois Branch of The King’s Daughters and Sons to establish a home for the organizations senior members.

At the time many of the residents were retired school teachers who never married and did not have children or family to help care for them as they aged.

In the 1970s new healthcare regulations rendered the home outdated and plans began for a continuing care retirement community, Friendship Manor.

From the groundbreaking in 1977, to today when Friendship Manor celebrates its 35th anniversary, the International Order of The King‘s Daughters and Sons, Illinois Branch has been with us the entire time. The aim of the organization’s order also forms the bedrock of our philosophy of care: “Not to be ministered unto, but to minister.” (Mark 10:45)

“We’re all about helping people,” said Sandy Kramer, President of Moline City Union King’s Daughters and Sons. “We’re really happy to call Friendship Manor one of our approved projects.

“It has been recognized on a national level as being a very high quality facility. I think it offers senior citizens living opportunities in which they can still be very active.”

Some of the Friendship Manor residents are members of The King’s Daughters and Sons and volunteer to run the Country Store, which is operated by the organization. The store is one of many amenities residents can take advantage of without leaving the Manor, such as a Bistro, exercise room, bank, woodworking shop, beauty parlor and more.

“It is the busiest place you’d ever want to go to,” Kramer said. “The staff is so friendly. You walk in and you instantly have the feeling that somebody here cares about me.”

Click here to learn more about Friendship Manor and its history with The King’s Daughters and Sons.


It all started with a broken faucet

Three years ago Kirby Platter was on his way to the hardware store to get parts to fix a broken faucet in the condo he shared with his wife Carol for the past 20 years.

At 78 years old, Kirby was picturing himself lying on his back, replacing the parts and remembered an ad he saw for Friendship Manor, where he would never have to worry about another leaky faucet.

When he got home Kirby told his wife they should consider moving. Three weeks later they were Friendship Manor residents.

“It is perfect for us, just perfect,” said Carol Platter. “It was home to us right away.”

The couple brought their own furniture to their apartment, setting up their living room exactly as it had been in the condo. The Platters have no maintence to worry about, have their housekeeping, laundry and meals all taken care of, leaving them more time to enjoy themselves.

“Now if I make something, it is just because I want rice pudding or something in particular,” Carol Platter said. “I definitely have a lot more time. It is just really relaxed.”

The Platters also think making the move to Friendship Manor on their own was good for their children.

“They know we’re being taken care of,” Carol Platter said. “They don’t have to think about what if mom and dad age and we have to find a home to take them in.”

At 73 and 81, the Platters don’t plan on slowing down anytime soon. They enjoy going to the Fitness Center, eating at the Bistro, participating in several clubs and volunteer activities and even helping out with the gardening in the spring and summer.

“I like to get out and just pull weeds too. I just like being outside,” Carol Platter said. “There are so many opportunities right here in the building. It is so nice to be walking down the hall and say, ‘Hi’ to somebody.”

Click here to learn more about the benefits of becoming a resident at Friendship Manor.


Friendship Manor adds to seniors’ quality of life

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Lack of socialization is one of the biggest problems facing the elderly today. Isolation of seniors can be an underlying cause of depression. But for those still living at home with limited safe transportation options, getting out to meet with others can be difficult.

That’s where living at an independent and assisted living community, such as Friendship Manor, can make a big difference in seniors’ quality of life.

“The unique thing about Friendship Manor is they have created a community within their own organization, offering banking services, the restaurant-style service, creating several services all within their organization,” said Tracy Nims, a registered nurse and Physician Liaison for UnityPoint at Home and Hospice, who coordinates care for hospice services.

Nims said Friendship Manor allows seniors to get the care and help they need without taking away their independence. Residents are able to take advantage of housekeeping services, medication reminders and other assistance as needed, while still being able to make their own schedule. They can head to an afternoon movie, get some exercise at the Fitness Center or go to the Bistro for lunch with friends. That’s all without leaving the Friendship Manor community.

“For our elder seniors it provides a sense of security,” Nims said. “It provides and empowers that socialization structure, but still maintains a safe environment all under one roof.”

Nims said she often sees a decline in seniors’ quality of life once they are unable to safely drive themselves, prepare meals or maintain personal hygiene. At that point a move to an assisted or independent living community can greatly improve quality of life, giving them the help they need, while allowing them to maintain social ties.

Click here to learn more about the benefits of becoming a resident at Friendship Manor.


Mother Daughter Luncheon a family tradition at Friendship Manor

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The event is a favorite among the residents because it allows them to host a lovely luncheon for their daughters, granddaughters and even great-granddaughters.

“It is their way to still provide their family with a get together without all the hassle of preparing it in their home,” said Nancy Mann, Activities Director at Friendship Manor.

This year the lunch menu will feature broccoli and cheese soup, chicken pasta salad served with almonds on romaine lettuce, angel food muffins, fresh fruit and a raspberry parfait for dessert.

There will also be gift baskets given away by random drawing and ice breaker games so guests can get to know others in the room besides those in their family.

Pianist Troy Harris will perform during lunch to create a fun atmosphere for the guests.

Mann has been organizing the annual event for the past seven years and said about half of the 80 attendees have made the annual Mother Daughter Luncheon a holiday tradition for their family and come back every year.

The luncheon is free for residents to attend, and $15 per guest. Register by May 3, by calling 309-786-9667.


How to pack for a short- or long-term stay at a nursing or rehab facility

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Deciding what to pack when preparing for a short- or long-term stay at a nursing and rehab facility can be difficult. You want to have the comforts of home, but are limited on space. Silver Cross Health and Rehabilitation Pavilion Admissions Manager Sigred Chasey, walks you through the essentials on what to pack.

Short-term stay

Many people entering a nursing and rehab facility for a short-term stay, usually 20 to 100 days, are coming from the hospital after surgery or a stroke.

While they may have spent their hospital stay in a gown, at Silver Cross, they will be going to and from rehab multiple times a day, going to meals and participating in planned activities. That means they need seven to 10 comfortable outfits, preferably with elastic waistbands, one or two pairs of comfortable shoes undergarments and socks.

Patients may also wish to bring their own toiletries and some women prefer to bring makeup. A radio, books, and laptop or iPad are also recommended to help pass the time between treatment and activities. One often overlooked item is a phone and address book.

“Phone numbers are kind of the biggest concern,” Chasey said. “People want to be able to call out and talk to people and you want to make sure they’re ready for that.”

Long-term stay

For people who will be staying longer than three months, there are additional items to consider bringing to the nursing and rehab facility to make the surroundings more comfortable, such as a favorite chair, dresser, and pictures.

“Certainly the family is going to want to look at the room and think, ‘How can I make them feel at home,’ ” Chasey said.

At Silver Cross Health and Rehabilitation Pavilion, long-term stay residents are allowed to bring in any personal items they want as long as they fit in the room. They are encouraged to hang artwork and photos on the wall, and there is a bulletin board for cards.

Long-term stay residents may also want to consider bringing some additional nicer outfits to wear to activities and meals.

“If you’re going to stay long-term, it kind of depends on what level of care you are at,” Chasey said. “If you are slightly independent, family is going to come and you’re going to go to the Bistro and eat. You’re going to want more clothes.”

Silver Cross Health and Rehabilitation Pavilion is a fully licensed, 94-bed skilled nursing and rehab facility, it’s conveniently close to all of our residents right here at Friendship Manor.

There are private and semi-private rooms available and Medicare, Medicaid, and private pay are all accepted. Each room comes with a bed, nightstand, closet, lamp, chair, TV, and wireless Internet.

Click here for more information about Silver Cross Health and Rehabilitation Pavilion.